The Phone Call from Hell...

I waited a week and a half for Kris to call me back. 
It was a gloomy, cool fall day. Rainy. The kind where you wish you were home curled up under a blanket watching scary movies instead of sitting at work. The phone call was brief, but packed a punch. 
When I answered I could tell that she was clearly annoyed that I called her, even more annoyed that I called to ask what her opinion was on talking to Buffalo IVF. Considering that her job is to perform annual exams on women and is not a RE, but a NP I didn't see an issue. 

I asked her about Dr. Sullivan and she said "Um yeah I told you to go see him when we last spoke, if you wanted a second opinion"

Never once in our conversations did she EVER mention that I should get a second opinion. Not once! 
But according to her, she did. Liar.

She then proceeded to tell me that: 
obviously i NEED to go to him to "come to grips" with the reality of my situation. since i'm "not grasping the whole thing" she tells me i should go to him and have him tell me the information. but that he'll take one look at my numbers and won't let me into the program. but i should go to hear from him that i won't be able to have my own kids. and that maybe after hearing it from someone else i'll believe it.

she spoke to me with such contempt and was so condescending.

She went from telling me not to worry that she will get me pregnant to telling me that i will NEVER have children and I need to come to grips with that. I couldn't believe the change in her. 

If you are reading this and go to Ob/Gyn Associates of WNY--seriously consider changing to a different ob/gyn. 

By the end of the phone call I was sobbing. She ended the call telling me she would fax all my info over to Dr. Sullivan, good luck and hung up on me. Very professional. 

I sat out on my parents porch crying. My mom came down and tried to comfort me. Was in shock when I told her what Kris had to say. A few minutes later my dad and Jeff pulled in from work. Jeff was so angry that he was ready to drive to her office and speak to her face to face. 

A year later and thinking of that phone call still upsets me. I wish I could have found a way to make sure that she was never able to speak to people like that again. She was purposefully cruel and I cringe to think that she talks to other women with fertility issues like that. 

Moral of the story: 
* Don't stay with your regular ob/gyn if you have fertility issues
* Avoid Kris Ziegler, NP from Ob/Gyn Associates of WNY like the plague